Pre-Marital Counseling
Pre-Marital Counseling with Rondel
Preparing for a wedding is exciting, but a wedding is just one day. A marriage is a lifetime.
In our culture, it’s easy to invest enormous time, energy, and money into the details of a single day, while giving far less attention to the foundation that will carry a relationship for decades. Premarital counseling is about flipping that script. It’s about slowing down long enough to build something deep, lasting, and life-giving.
This page provides the sessions and resources I use to walk alongside engaged couples as they prepare not just for a ceremony, but for a covenant. Together, we explore what it means to build a Christ-centered marriage—one that is emotionally healthy, spiritually grounded, and resilient through every season of life.
Each in-person session lasts approximately 60–75 minutes. These are relaxed, conversational times designed to help you better understand yourself and your partner on a deeper, more meaningful level.
Please schedule your sessions at least six months before your wedding so we can complete Sessions 1–4 and Session 7 at least one week prior to your wedding day.
Sessions 5 and 6 are completed on your own after finishing Session 4.
Each session is password-protected and builds on the previous one. Passwords will be provided by Rondel as you progress.
Mark your calendar: Be sure to obtain your marriage license at least one week before your wedding day.
My hope is that these conversations will help you develop clarity, strengthen your relationship, and lay a foundation that will not only last—but flourish—as you learn to follow Jesus together.
Please schedule at least 6 months prior to the wedding so that we can get sessions 1-4 and 7 done at least a week before the wedding day.
Marriage License: Obtain at least one week before the wedding day
COMPLETE THE FOLLOWING PRIOR TO OUR FIRST SESSION
Complete the following (only if the wedding is to be held at HCC)
Wedding Request at HCC form - Please complete and submit this form at least one year in advance so we can confirm availability and begin planning.
Complete the following (only if I am doing the premarital counseling)
Investing in OUR Marriage! – Creating the Marriage of Your Dreams handout - Each person should have either a completed digital or printed copy before our first session. You are to work through the sections marked “On Your Own” and then, after both have completed those sections, work through the “Together” sections.
Make a copy of this file and save it to your computer. (Select “Make a Copy” in the File Menu and save it with your last name and wedding date.)
Each person should download or print and complete this worksheet before our first session. Please bring your completed copy with you (printed or digital).
The 16 Personalities Assessment- Each person should complete this assessment and bring or send me their results before our first session.
This is a personality inventory based on the Myers-Briggs framework that helps you better understand how you think, communicate, make decisions, and relate to others—insight that will be valuable as we work on your relationship together.
Complete the following (only if I am doing the wedding)
The Wedding Day Planning Sheet - Please complete this form prior to our first session so we can begin discussing the details of your ceremony. Make a copy of this file and save it to your computer. (Select “Make a Copy” in the File Menu and save it with your last name and wedding date.) We will be able to update any details as the wedding planning progresses.
An initial conversation to reflect on what you’ve already learned about yourselves and your relationship, discuss your wedding plans, and map out a clear and intentional path for your premarital and marital journey together.
A deep dive into the essential ingredients of a healthy, Christ-centered marriage—building trust, emotional safety, personal responsibility, and habits that strengthen love over time.
Learning how to truly hear and understand one another through healthy communication patterns that foster connection, clarity, and emotional intimacy. (Password Required)
Exploring how to navigate disagreements in a healthy and productive way—turning conflict into an opportunity for growth rather than division. (Password Required)
Developing a shared vision and practical plan for finances—aligning values, habits, and goals to steward money wisely together. (Password Required)
Understanding God’s design for sexual intimacy in marriage and cultivating a healthy, honoring, and life-giving physical relationship. (Password Required)
Reflecting on key insights from your journey and finalizing all of the details in preparation for the big day and the life that follows. This can be scheduled within 2 weeks of the wedding so that all of the details are hammered out. (Password Required)
When able, I like to get together to reconnect, reflect on your first months of marriage, celebrate growth, and address any challenges as you continue building your life together. (Password Required)